Hey--thanks for visiting.
I’m glad you’re here.
Bearfoot Living is a space born from lived experience, gut-wrenching truth, and the slow, sacred process of remembering what’s real.
I don’t know exactly what brought you here, but maybe it feels a little like this:
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You’ve been carrying more than your share.
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You’ve done some healing—or at least started.
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You’ve read the books, done the therapy, tried to meditate (even if your brain has other plans).
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You’ve unpacked a lot… and still, something feels stuck, missing, shut down, or too much.
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Or maybe… something just feels off and you can’t quite name it.
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Maybe you're starting to question how you move through life, love, sex, or connection—and wondering if there’s something more.
You're not broken or flawed. You're not too late. And you're definitely not alone.
A Little About Me
I'm Evan.
A certified somatic mindfulness guide, body-based trauma-informed coach, sober queer man, space-holder, and fellow human doing the messy, miraculous work of coming home to myself. Every. Fucking. Day.
I'm also someone who has lived through a lot of what I now hold space for:
Addiction recovery.
Disconnection from my body, my sexuality, my self.
Shame that shaped how I showed up--or didn't.
A health diagnosis that shifted everything.
Years in performative success that looked fine on paper and felt hollow on the inside.
I got good at surviving. I built versions of myself that could pass as capable, desirable, even "healed." While underneath, I was lonely, numb, and unsure how to feel into what mattered.
I didn't know how to ask for what I wanted.
I wasn't even sure what I wanted.
I said 'yes,' even when I didn't mean it.
I gave more than I had, hoping someone would eventually give back.
Eventually, I stopped performing wellness and started practicing presence.
No...it didn't fix everything. The shadows still visit. Old stories still whisper.
Here's the difference: I know more now about how to stay with myself--through the grief, the joy and delight, the ache, the quiet.
I listen when my body speaks, even when it whispers...especially when it whispers.
There is no pill.
There is no magic wand or magical path.
There is no perfect formula.
There is only the work. The breath. The practice. The consistent healing. In that, I've found some peace, imagination, clarity, and joy.
Not all day, every day. But enough. Enough to keep going. Enough to create space for others to do the same.
Who I Work With
I work with LGBTQ+ folks (especially gay men over 30), trauma survivors, people in recovery or transition, and anyone navigating the mess and magic of embodiment.
You don't need a plan.
You don't need to be "healed" already.
You only need to be curious--and willing to show up.
Some of the paths we may explore together include:
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Somatic integration & nervous system regulation
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Intimacy & connection (solo or partnered)
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Pleasure, touch, and body-based healing
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Post-recovery aliveness
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Self-trust & inner wisdom
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Quiet transformation without performance
You won't find toxic positivity or ten-step programs here.
What you will find is presence, honesty, nuance, permission, and space for laughter in the middle of the real.
How I Work
I'm not a therapist.
I'm not your coach's coach.
I'm a guide--someone who's walked a rough road and knows how to build a fire when the map stops making sense.
I offer 1:1 sessions, workshops, and community-based spaces both online and in person.
My tools are drawn from training in somatic experiencing, mindfulness-based coaching, trauma-informed practices, and years of lived experience.
Everything is grounded in body-awareness, consent, curiosity, and care.
This can be slow work. But it is real work...embodied work.
And it doesn't have to be heavy every second.
There's space here for joy, creativity, and play. ALL of you is welcome here.
If any part of you feels a yes...
Let's talk.
Start with a free discovery call--no pressure, just presence.
Because maybe--just maybe--this is the season where you stop performing healing...and start living it.