About Bearfoot Living

I'm glad you're here.

Bearfoot Living is a grounded, relational space for body-based coaching. Born from lived experience, hard-earned presence, and the slow work of learning how to stay with what's real.

If you've found your way here, it may feel something like this:

You've carried more than your share.

You've done some healing...or at least started.

You've read the books, tried the therapy, experimented with meditation (even if your brain had other plans).

You've unpacked a lot and still, something feels stuck, missing, shut down, or just...off.

Maybe you're starting to question how you move through life, intimacy, sex, or connection and wondering if there's more.

You're not broken.

You're not behind.

You're certainly not alone.

My Approach

I'm Evan.

I'm a body-based, trauma-informed coach and somatic mindfulness guide. I'm also a sober queer man who knows what it's like to look "fine on paper" while feeling disconnected, numb, or hollow underneath.

Much of what I offer comes from what I've lived:

Addiction and recovery.

Disconnection from my body, sexuality, and self.

Shame that shaped how I showed up—or didn't.

A health diagnosis that changed everything.

Years of performative success that looked good from the outside and felt empty on the inside.

I got very good at surviving. I built versions of myself that could pass as capable, desirable, even "healed."

Underneath, I didn't know how to ask for what I wanted...or even what I wanted at all.

Eventually, I stopped performing wellness and started practicing presence.

Not because it fixed everything. The old stories still visit. The shadows still whisper.

The difference is, I know how to stay with myself now. I listen with love and respect when my body speaks...especially when it whispers.

There's no pill.

No magic formula.

No perfect path.

There is practice, breath, attention, and consistency.

And from that, enough clarity, imagination, and relief to keep going—and to make space for others to do the same.

Why I Do This Work

I do this work because insight alone isn't always enough.

Because bodies remember what minds can explain away.

Because healing doesn't happen through force, urgency, or performance.

Because real change takes time, trust, and a willingness to stay present with what's actually happening.

This work isn't about fixing you.

It's about helping your body learn that it's safe to respond differently now.

That's where things begin to shift.

Who I Work With

I work primarily with gay and queer men (especially those over 30) who feel disconnected from their bodies, intimacy, or sense of self, even when life looks stable on the outside.

I also work with people navigating:

Shame and religious trauma
Recovery and post-recovery aliveness
Body image and self-trust
Long-term health conditions, such as HIV and other immune disorders
identity transitions and life re-orientation

You don't need a plan, or to be "healed," or even to know the right words.

You only need a willingness to show up and stay curious.

How I Work

I'm not a therapist. I'm not here to diagnose you or rush you toward an outcome.

I'm a guide. Someone who knows how to slow things down when the map stops making sense to help you find direction.

My work is relational and body-based, grounded in:

Somatic awareness
Consent and pacing
Mindfulness and attention
Trauma-informed practice

Insights and healing could come quickly or slowly. We take things at a pace that feels safe enough to face what's present.

The work isn't always heavy. There's a lot of space for honesty, nuance, creativity, and laughter alongside all the hard things.

All of you is welcome here.

Where to Begin

If any part of you feels a quiet yes, even if you can't explain why, we can start with a conversation.

A free discovery call is a chance to slow down, ask questions, and see whether working together feels like the right fit.

No pressure...just presence.